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Walter
Albritton
February
5, 2012
Moving
beyond rejection is not easy and impossible without help
Rejection
can be hell. It has the power to bring down the best of us. It can handcuff us, demoralize us and cause us
to give up. Whether we admit it or not the affirmation of other people is a
basic need of all normal people. To lose
the acceptance of the people who are important to you is always devastating.
Condemnation
from people you love is no doubt the worst kind of rejection. Few people can
live well without the encouragement and support of at least one or two friends.
Yet some of us are ready to denounce the bad behavior of a person who has
developed the habit of failure. And our rejection can push the struggling person
deeper into the pit of despair.
Climbing
out of the hell of rejection is not easy and it is impossible without the help
of someone with the gift of mercy. That “someone” can be God whose mercy is
fresh every morning. The person who has failed morally must first seek and
embrace God’s forgiveness. This is true because our sins are first and foremost
“against God,” as King David said, even though people have been hurt by our
sins. And to find lasting peace, after accepting God’s mercy, we must also ask
forgiveness from those persons harmed by our sins.
So
how does a person recover from rejection and move on? First, realize that
everybody fails at one time or another. No one is perfect. Failure is part of
the fabric of life. It will help to acknowledge that you have failed and may
truly deserve the pain of rejection. But your life is not over unless you
choose to let it be over.
You
have another choice. You can forgive yourself, accept God’s forgiveness and
seek the forgiveness of those hurt by your failure. Then you can get up and
walk on! You need not wallow in the misery and self-pity of your pain and
disappointment. You can start over again!
Remind
yourself that you are not the first person to be rejected for failing. Read a bit of history and note how many others
failed but found the courage to begin again. They leaped over rejection. The
list is endless. Thomas Edison failed hundreds of times but he refused to quit
trying. Babe Ruth had almost twice as many strikeouts as he did home runs. The
Ford Motor Company gave us the Edsel, a colossal
failure, but the company is still producing Ford cars and trucks.
Winston
Churchill failed the sixth grade and lost many elections but he kept bouncing
back until he became Prime Minister of England. Beethoven’s teacher said he was
hopeless; now his nameless teacher is known only for that glaring mistake!
Albert Einstein could not read until he was seven and his teacher described him
as “mentally slow.” Walt Disney was fired for “a lack of ideas” and went bankrupt
several times before creating Disneyland.
Refuse
to say “I am a failure.” Instead admit that you are a person who has failed.
While you have failed you need not sit and whine; you can rise up and walk into
a new future. The God who created you will help you. Take Him at his word:
“When you seek me with all your heart you will find me.”
If
the important people in your life have given up on you, forgive them and move
on. Refuse to give up on yourself. Find one or two other people who will
believe in you and encourage you to recover. Care about them. Do kind things
for them. Get busy making a difference in their lives. The more you do that,
the less time you will have to fret about the past. Bury your pain and make a
new start! Graves are useful; dig one for your rejection. Pain can be
beneficial only if it spurs you to make a new beginning!
Someone
once described the Christian life like this: “We fall down and we get up, we
fall down and we get up, and we keep falling down and getting up all the way to
heaven!” That is how I see it too. So what is keeping you? Get up and go again!
Then one day soon your fresh new joy will be far more real than the pain of
failure and rejection and there will be a smile on your face instead of tears
on your cheeks. Go for it! + + +